Have you have ever gone out with someone and the evening ended in an weird silence where you wanted to move things forward, but you didn’t make the move out of fear of rejection. In this article I focus on the topic of how to kiss a girl without letting your nervousness get the best of you.
Excessive nervousness when on the brink of making a move on a girl is a common problem and an issue that every guy has had to deal with at one time or another. I always found it pretty easy to get dates, however I would mess up repeatedly because I didn’t realize how to kiss a girl at the appropriate time. I just couldn’t get the courage to make a move at the end of a date. What if I had read the situation wrong? What if she did want me to kiss her but then I disappointed her because I wasn’t a good kisser?
If you have found a girl that likes to be with you and she seems interested in taking things further, then you are doing better than many other men out there. Having someone who potentially wants to take things further is a great position to be in and you should be proud. The next step is figuring out the proper way to kiss her.
How to Kiss a Girl Advice
You are probably over thinking a lot of this, with questions in your head like “How can I tell if she’s into me enough that she will kiss me?” or “What should I do if she doesn’t view our relationship that way?” or even “what if I’m a lousy kisser and she gets turned off?”
None of this actually matters, its just you being overly anxious about the situation. There is no guaranteed way of knowing if a girl is interested in you. What you should be focusing on is taking the necessary steps to quickly discover if she is really in to you, and if she is someone that you want to get to know more intimately.
You just need to go for it. Seize the opportunity to give her a kiss, either when the two of you are alone, or at the end of a date. Once you master this, you will just instinctively know when the timing is right. The atmosphere will indicate that it is the right time to move in for a kiss.
When you will go for the kiss, there are two possible things that can happen. The first is that both of you kiss, enjoy it, and then you have all kinds of crazy fun! Good for you! You overcame your nerves and finally took things to the next level.
The second thing that can happen is that she rejects your advances. If that happens, be happy about it! You found out that the girl is not really interested and therefor not worth spending more time or effort on, so you can now give attention to other girls. Bare in mind that sometimes girls are just really shy, so make sure you have read the rejection right before you right her off completely as a potential partner. You should react with a casual comment, like, “you know I had to try”, and just move on. Treat her nicely and be friendly toward her for the remainder of the date, and at the same time, try to wrap things up quickly, so as to avoid any awkwardness.
After this, it is her turn to play ball. If she realizes later that a mistake was made and she actually cares about you, she will give you a call. However let her make the move. The important thing is to not give up the first time she resists. If she actually doesn’t desire to kiss, she will tell you.
Should she accept your advances, the next step is knowing what to do while kissing. I recommend starting slowly by gently pressing your lips to hers and then just mirroring what she does. If she doesnt open her lips, try opening your slightly and see if she does the same. Just go with it and allow the kissing to escalate naturally in small steps. This way you will both find a kissing rhythm that you enjoy.
Now, that’s how to kiss a girl. Although putting yourself on the line in such a bold manner can seem scary at first, once you think about it, its actually quite exciting. Just go for it and see what happens. If it all goes wrong and she rejects you then at least you know where you stand. I have always found the best way to learn is to just go for it. Fail fast and learn from the experience, but don’t ever be too scared to try.